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| Family Stress and Accidents Clyde Flanagan, M.D., director of psychoanalysis at the University of South Carolina School of Medicine, says accident proneness may stem from a complex combination of physical and psychological factors. “I would not say that all accidents have a psychological basis,” he says, but he does believe that strong feelings of guilt, depression, anger or stress can make healthy people more likely to have accidents. Whatever unaddressed problem or worry a person as “is like an emotional abscess that’s been walled off,” Flanagan says. “The only way for healing is to open it and drain it.” The Troubled Mind Everybody’s got problems at home or work: the passive-aggressive boss or the fight you and your sister always seem to have. If you don’t deal with them, they can play like background noise, distracting you from what you’re doing. And that can be a dangerous thing – several studies have shown that drivers with marital probles suffer more traffic accidents around the time they file for divorce. San Francisco psychotherapist Robert H. Hopcke, author of There Are No Accidents, says, “If I’m having a day when I’m dropping everything, it’s probably feelings – anger, anxiety, grief – that are distracting me.” Bottom Line: To avoid the bumps and scrapes that are caused by distracted thoughts, it’s time to back off and start reflecting. You just have to get the feelings out so you’re not walking around in a fog. Talking or writing about them is the first step. The Poor Me Syndrome The onand off numbness in your wrist is not permanent, you broke your foot when the loose step on your proch gave way, anhd you got a cold right aftger you were caught in a downpour – just as you thought you would. You might believe you’re jinxed, but you may just be waiting to be the victim. :People who are somewhat passive have accidents because they’re not taking care of themselves and their situations. HOpcke says. They find it easier to complain about the problem than to do something about it. Bottom line: Search for wasy to take control; fix the step, attend to your medical problems, watch the TV weather reports. If you get proactive about the things that are tripping you up, you’ll find that your luck will improve. The Aggressive Klutz The opposiste of the victim, you’re the most driven, goal-oriented person you know. That 5k FUNDRAISER SPONSORED BY YOUR OFFICE? For your coworkers, it’s a SOCIAL EVENT, BUT YOU WANT TO WIN. Highly COMPEITITVE PEOPLE OF ALL AGES TEND TO OVERESTIMATE THEIR ABILITIES. Their advice: Don’t stop skiing or skydiving, but refine your judgment. The message isn’t that you should avoid doing anything fun and challenging. But you need to be realistic and some training never hurts. Bottom line: If you’re really competitive, you probably couldn't’t give that trait up if you tried Which is fine. Try activities like yoga that encourage you to check your competitive urge at the door. It’s good to surrender sometimes – and it’s good to do it on the floor. Creating New Traditions
Copy of the study published in the March issue of Psychology and Aging on Lifelong benefits of a nurturing touch (LATimes, March 29, ’04) “The more parents nurture their offspring, the more likely the children are to remain emotionally and physically healthy through old age. Participants who had not received enough emotional support from their parents in childhood were more likely to report poorer physical healthy as adults than those who indicated they had been given plenty of emotional support. The ones who hadn’t gotten enough nurturing were also more likely to suffer from depression or other emotional illnesses, said researcher Benjamin Shaw, an assistant professor of social behavior and community healthy at the Albany campus.”
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